First of all I just need to say that my wedding is by far my favorite wedding of all the ones I have been to. Aside from getting to marry my best friend, it had all the aspects which I like and none of the ones which have no meaning to me.
Second I need to answer the questions which I think I got asked more then anything else. “Who’s doing your photos?” Well a year or so ago through mutual friend’s recommendations I started reading Bill Blakey’s blog and have really liked his work. So Suzy and I were both super excited when we found he had our date available. Be sure to check his site for his story of the day! (all images on this post are his, so please don’t remove any without permission from Bill)
When Suzy and I first started planning our wedding, we decided that there are so many traditions prevalently used that they often become meaningless, trite additions creating needless formality. I won’t say that I am against candle lighting, and foot washings, and the seating of the parents, and bouquet/garter tosses, and everyone wearing matching clothes, and cake cutting, and sand pouring, and the first dance, and the father-daughter dance, and the money dance, and the best man toast, and the guestbook etc… All the traditions can be a great part of your wedding as long as they are something YOU want to do and something that has meaning to YOU.
For our wedding we only wanted a few things: we wanted to keep it short and simple, we wanted it outside, and we wanted our immediate family there. All of our family from around the country came out early for some family events together the days leading up to the wedding, all of which were very fun and special. The night before the wedding we took some family photos, ate some cake, watched a slideshow of us when we were little, danced, and even had a stand up comedian. This left the wedding day with no stress, ready to highlight the most important thing: the “wedding” (the part where we exchange vows and get wed). So here is a brief synopsis of our day…
Suzy’s family had rented a beach house on the Silverstrand beach in Oxnard for the week they were here in LA. So early Thursday morning we all drove out to meet there. Suzy had spent the night at the beach house, so I got there a little early and went out on the sand with some gifts I had gotten her. Shortly after I arrived she came out and we saw each other for the first time. For me it was really important that we got a few minutes alone to see each other and be able to talk before the wedding. So when I turned around and saw her coming out on the sand it was one of the best moments of the day! After we had a few minutes Suzy brought me inside and performed a song she had written for me on the piano. (The song was a surprise and I think this was the only time all day I teared up).
After she finished the song, everyone except Suzy, her dad and the bridesmaids walked out on the sand and stood in a group. My friend Patrick started playing “Love Story” by Taylor Swift on his acoustic guitar and all the bridesmaids came walking out on the sand. Suzy had 7 bridesmaids, and I had 3 groomsmen. We didn’t pick out bridesmaids dresses or tuxes, we just had everyone in the bridal party wear something to their liking (and our approval) in brown tones. All the guys wore vests, and the girls whatever they liked. It was so nice that everyone could feel and look great in clothes that they picked out. I love the eclectic semi synchronized look. As Patrick finished his first song and the bridesmaids arrived, the whole group formed an aisle out in the middle of the beach. Patrick began “I don’t want to be just friends” and Suzy and her dad came walking out and joined me. Her dad took Suzy’s purity ring off her left ring finger and moved it to her right hand, and gave her hands to me. The significance of this was that we had both saved ourselves for the purity of marriage.
Then our pastor Rick Holland spoke on marriage for a few minutes and we exchanged vows. The vows were followed by some silent prayer closed by my brother, Sam (best man) and Jessica (one of Suzy’s best friends). Finally Rick pronounced us man and wife and we kissed (a couple times).
After the kiss, we took a group photo of everyone there and then Bill did some photos of us while everyone went to a private, beach-view room at the fabulous Pierpont Inn for brunch. I couldn’t wait to change our status on Facebook, so to parallel our engagement party, we had “the changing of the facebook status” at brunch. We then opened it up for anyone who wanted to toast. Most of the bridal party and a number of others toasted and then we ran out to the car as everyone waved goodbye.
Sweet, simple, perfect, and we are married! =)
More thoughts and photos to come in future posts.