This is part three of the questions I asked a dozen brides. I find it really interesting that there really wasn’t much consistency with any of the answers from any questions I asked. Maybe if I expanded the questions to 120 brides in much wider circle of diversity we would start to see a trend.
But I did note a few things. For some people a wedding planner is a great idea (I personally recommend it) But we, along with many others, didn’t use one and it still worked out. A few people said they wished they had video, but I have also heard stories of people who got video and never watch it more than once. Some people wished they did dinner, but I think the opposite might be true in some cases as well. The list goes on.
I think the big thing I personally pulled away is decided what’s important to YOU. Make sure to include those things and not the things that are important to other people. If it’s not in your budget don’t worry about it. Don’t stress about things, enjoy the day, and remember in the end your still getting married and that’s all the really matters. =).
3. If you could go back to the planning process and do it over what would you change?
– If I could go back to the planning process and do it again, I wouldn’t stress so much over little details. We decided to print our own invitations and programs, and the kits that we used ended up being such huge headaches! This caused so much stress and literally took weeks to finish. Though it may have cost a bit more, I think I would just get them printed by a printing company if I were to do it again!! Everything else in the planning process was so much fun though, I really did love it!
– I would have planned the reception better. Our ceremony was so wonderful and perfectly planned out, but we knew it would be long and plus we didn’t start until 7pm on a Saturday evening. So I should have looked ahead to realize our reception should be brief and than taken time to plan out the minutes for cake cutting, toasting, dancing, and greeting guests to make it more smooth and efficient to get it all done and let the guest go home.
– What would I change about the planning process? Um, not anything I can think of off the top of my head. I felt pretty prepared and had made up tons of checklists and a schedule for the ceremony etc and had a friend act as my wedding planner the whole day. She took care of the details and I ended up having a very stress free day! It was fabulous!
– I wouldn’t change anything if I had the same budget. But, if I had an unlimited budget I would have served dinner as well as having a dessert buffet and had a videographer.
– I would make sure that I had a backup plan for everything! We had planned on getting married at our church and were told that renovations being done to it would be finished by our wedding date. Three weeks before the wedding we found out that the building wasn’t going to be inspected before the date so we couldn’t use it. Thankfully, we already had a place in mind as a backup for the reception and when we found out they were available we had the ceremony there as well. We simply sent out change of location letters to everyone who had RSVP’d to come. It turned out even more beautiful than it would have at the church, but we did undergo a lot of stress from it in the meantime.
– If I were to go back to the planning process and do something over, I would have definitely hired a video professional to record the entire day. I regret that I did not think of that sooner when I was dividing up the budget into various areas. Video does provide a different feel than pictures do, and it’s always nice to go back and watch videos of your wedding over again whenever you’re in that nostalgic mood (which I get a lot of).
– The planning process is one of the most stressful processes a couple can go through on the way to the altar. I love my family dearly, but if I could do the planning process all over again, I would get less people involved. My husband and I had a vision of what our wedding should be but apparently so did every single person in our family! They had strong opinions over who to invite, what the colors should be, how the flowers should look, and more. I would have kept details to ourselves to avoid hurt feelings and family issues. At the end of the day it all turned out wonderful, but we could have done without the drama.
– I can’t think of much that I would change, but as I’ve watched the planning process of other weddings I can say that I’m so very thankful for the friend I had who sort of became my “wedding planner”. It wasn’t really a position I planned on filling, and I’m not really sure she knew what an incredible role she would play but I don’t think I could have enjoyed my day as much as I did without her and a few other key people. When you plan an event you have to run an event, and when you’re the Bride the last thing you want to be doing on your wedding day is running the event. My friend was able to walk beside me throughout the whole planning process, she knew what I wanted and we had discussed everything so that on our wedding day she was the one to see it all through, and I was able to just enjoy each moment as it came.
– Simplify! I wish I had picked less expensive dresses for my bridesmaids. I did everything myself including the flowers! It saved me tons of money and the whole family participated to make our day special which was fun. It’s a very important day, but the most important thing is that the Bride and Groom have a wonderful time, so don’t stress about the small stuff.
– In order to save money, we hired a non-professional caterer. Because she was new at what she was doing, she was unable to give us good pricing up front and didn’t have access to the equipment that a professional would have. In the end, the quality of the food was less than what I hoped for, and the savings were small. There are ways to save money on food, but don’t sacrifice an experienced professional.
-I would definitely had hired a wedding planner to help with coordinating and that day. Also, I would have done bridal portraits. I never really learned about them until I lived in the south, and learned that everyone does them! I am a little bummed I missed out on that opportunity!
– NOTHING. My entire family had everything to do with the wedding. I made the plans and everyone executed. It could not have gone more perfectly. I know a lot of people say hire professionals, but the one most important and special aspect of our wedding was that there was so much love and hard work from all our friends and family. So it was not only mine and Wyatt’s wedding, but it was our families and friends as well. It was really a blend of two worlds coming together as one.