When we planned our wedding we decided to do a very small family ceremony and didn’t really see the need to register. I mean when it comes down to it, we’re not looking for gifts, we really just want our family and friends to be there to celebrate with us. But as people heard we were engaged many almost seemed offended that we hadn’t registered. I was surprised by so much generosity. We ended up receiving a good number of gifts and many more checks in the mail with notes of congratulations. It wasn’t asked for, and they were given by people we didn’t even invite to the family ceremony.
So when it came to time for our bigger wedding reception with friends we needed to make a decision. We really just want our friends to be there and celebrate with us, and we by no means have done a cost benefit analysis comparing the cost of the party versus the total value of gifts we hope to receive. But at the same time, I think I have come to realize people are generous and want to help us out with some of our little household needs as we get started in our married life. So in the end we decided to register. However, I hope no-one feels obligated to bring a gift or makes it a deciding factor whether they should come or not. If the whole night happened and we didn’t receive a single gift, I would be just as happy.
On that note, as others plan their wedding, I know times are tight and weddings are expensive but I would give this advice. Register to your hearts content, but make it priority to invite those you love. Love those you invite. Plan for no gifts, and be unexpectedly surprised by the ones you receive.
I know we already sent you all notes, but thank you again for all of you out there who showed so much unexpected generosity with your gifts and checks in our first few weeks of marriage!
Ok these are the first three random unrelated photos of gifts I found on my hardrive, and I thought I would add them for a little color. =)