Part two of my mini survey, I asked the same 12 brides if they could go back to the wedding day and change one thing what would it be? The interesting thing I found is that it seems like a number of people would have spent more time finding a way to see their guests and more time with family photos. I can’t help you with the guest part, but I can with the family photos.
When I first started shooting I don’t think I had the foresight or experience to really think through how to put a nice wedding day schedule together. Now I will always spend a good amount of time during our consultation going over the schedule and discussing which family photos we want to take. But even now, as we look through the wedding day and how to best use all the minutes, I think at times it’s easy to push all the family photos into a 15 time slot after the ceremony.
True, not everyone wants a lot of family photos from their wedding. But if it’s something you feel will be important to you later, make sure to think about it now. You only have so many minutes on your big day, so as you talk things over with your photographer maybe that’s something which might be worth a few extra. In reality good photos take a little more time, and I think when it comes down to it all of us want good photos! =)
If you could go back to the wedding day and change one thing what would it be? The Answers:
– If I could change one thing, I would have gotten more photos with my family – specifically my grandparents because they are so special to me. Everything goes so quickly, so I wish I would have had someone reminding me of all of those photos I really wanted taken that day.
– I feel the event was crowded with logistics; me still packing and moving stuff out of my old place, writing thank you cards for volunteers, getting ready all afternoon. I don’t even remember seeing or talking to Ben’s or my family that day, and even more any of the guests! I wish I had more casual memories with eveyone having all the work done so we could enjoy the moments together.
– We did a wedding on a budget, and I wish that I would have spent more money on my veil, and invited more people to the wedding (since so many who RSVP don’t show). Honestly though, it wasn’t about the details, it was about the people who were there and being confident that I was marrying the right person!
– The only problem we had at our wedding was that the sound system did not work properly. All of the microphones crackled throughout the ceremony. I wish we had taken more time to do sound tests and make sure that wouldn’t happen.
– If I were to go back to the wedding and change anything it would be to take more photos with my extended family members. It’s really a once in a lifetime chance for you to capture this important chapter in your life and you really want to take advantage of getting great images with those closest to you.
– Despite some of the pre-wedding stress we encountered, most of our day ended up as close to perfect as one could probably hope for. If I could change one thing I probably would have not had a getaway vehichle, because it came late and stalled the exit for my husband and I . We were so tired that we were ready to collapse. I wanted a big exit, but I think it ended up being an expense that wasn’t necessary.
– When I look back at our wedding day I’m happy with the way it all went. There were a few little things that I didn’t expect, things like: ~our “slide show” (an outdoor version) didn’t happen because there wasn’t enough time for set up ~It was FREEZING cold by the time the ceremony started and my poor bridesmaids were not wearing shoes ~We didn’t really get to eat any of the very yummy food! But, I think one thing that Mark and I both look back at and really wish is that we could have had tons more fun, creative, special pictures of just me and him together. I would have spent more time looking at wedding photos so that I could have had a better idea of what kind of photos I wanted to have to remember our day. That said, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the pictures that we do have and no matter how many good ones we got that day I think there would always be one more pose or angle that I would wish we could have gotten.
– If you could go back to the wedding day and change one thing what would it be?
I wouldn’t change much, except maybe have a smaller wedding party and I should have gone around to visit with my guests a little bit more during the reception. We had 200 people so that is automatically difficult, but I had some family in from out of town and I feel I should have spent more time with them.
– We didn’t have dancing at our reception, so guests didn’t hang around for very long. I hate to dance, so I wouldn’t change that part. But unfortunately, I didn’t get a chance to greet most of the people who were there. I thought it would be easy to make my way around the room, but those dresses do not make it easy to move! If you have a lot of guests, I would suggest coming up with a creative way to greet all your loved ones.
– RELAX. I cared way too much about everyone else on my wedding day. Were the families getting along? Were my friends having fun? Did I make time to talk to everyone? Yuck. I never enjoyed my day for myself, and it really breaks my heart to think about it. I would have let it all go, had a wedding planner to worry about everything, and enjoyed my special day with my husband!
– I would have done bridal portraits. I never really learned about them until I lived in the south, and learned that everyone does them! I am a little bummed I missed out on that opportunity!
– For every aspect of the wedding, I had various checklists and memos, which all seemed to work well with the exception of the photo list. I forgot the list I made of what pictures we had to take and with whom. My husband comes from a divorced family, so it was hard to keep track of who we forgot in the photos and what combinations we needed. We got most of the ones I could remember, but missed a couple I would have really liked to have had.